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ARTICLE:  Victim Who By Karly Sciortino in VOGUE. 
Sex Journalist and Viceland SLUTEVER Host, Karly Sciortino, wrote a damn fine piece highlighting the sexual agency women do have and how society often champions the sex lives of men while correlating a woman's sex life with her virtue. Good shit. Write on. 


PRACTITIONER: 
"I want you to know how EROTIC you are." 
Is what first hits you, bold and honestly, when you visit the website of, 
SexLoveLiberation. 
It's the gorgeous brainchild of Ev'Yan Whitney, a Sexuality Doula (how can you not want to discover the genius of this woman with a self-professed title as that?). 

This powerhouse coaches women to unlock their sexual essence to empower them to heal from the soul and womb and beyond. If your struggling with sexual trauma or feeling like a stranger in your own body, then give Ev'Yan a call (or click)


VIDEO: 
Caught in a Sexless Marriage (or long-term relationship)? Sad but true, over a third of brides don't have sex on their wedding nights, sooooo, I am guessing that this sets up an unfortunate precedent for the course of matrimony. This TED TALK, is aptly titled, No Sex Marriage - Masturbation, Loneliness, Cheating, and Shame by Maureen McGrath .This TED talk will bring you comfort in knowing your not alone and just what you can do about said, no-sex in your relationship. 



BOOK:
I'm an automatic admirer of any woman that's a photojournalist, and while Ava Green is a figment of my erotica author friend, Tasha L. Harrison's, imagination, she is still as real as they come. 
Tasha's most recent novel is a surefire and sultry winner for the erotic fiction genre. 

Therefore, please go add, The Truth of Things, to your Kindle ASAP. (+ she's a freelance romance and erotica editor ya'll, #supportawomanownedbusiness) 
















RESOURCE:
Ever wondered if there was a website solely dedicated to being your emotional BFF while navigating life after heartbreak? 
Well, whatyaknow, there is: Let's Mend. 
It's your space to be face in the place to walk you through this, 
"I think my heart has been ripped out" difficult time. 
What I heart about this site the most is that it is filled with stories of real life-rs, candidly sharing how they went from hurt to healed. Where in the fuck was this site four years ago when I endured some serious infidelity smh? They even have an APP. 
THIS article on loneliness was a gem! 


SONG:
You know those moments when you want to be brutally honest with yourself about how you really need a bad boy or girl in your life? 
OK! I got you. In musical form. 

Bad Decisions by indie hottie, songstress + song writer, 
Rayana Jay, will become your new heart breaker theme song! 


Inject some sex (or sensual fun and healing) into your life this week! 

XOXO!
CJ Childress 

Character Vibes: The Cool Nerdy Sexy Black Man In My Erotica

Image via: thetraveljoint.com 

Imagine Leon Bridges.
The cool, nerdy, sexy crooner from my city of birth, Fort Worth, TX. 

Yep, he's got leading man vibes. And his essence very much reminds me of the man at the center of one of my two erotica books in the making. 

PRETTY HARD DECISIONS. It's a fast paced erotica that quickly sweeps readers into a world of jealousy, fetishes, societal expectations, and buried secrets that eventually make their way into the lives of three grown and sexy millennials.

At the center of, Pretty Hard Decisions, you will find Kenneth.

Here's his snapshot: 

Kenneth Montgomery, 34, Black, Web Developer at hot new start-up, Lit Up Tech. 

He develops apps that helps authors go viral. Single father, full-custody of eight year-old, Yasmeen. 

They live in Harlem's, Morningside neighborhood. 

He's a native of Michigan and graduated from MIT. 

He has been having blazing hot and naughty, almost on the edge of dangerous, sex with Andrea Cummings and his ex-wife, Ashton Montgomery for the past month.

The web he weaves continues to spiral out of control as he finds himself not being able to deny the primal draw of Andrea and Ashton.

The data on the women he can't stay away from:

Andrea Cummings, 29, White, Freelance Tech Journalist and founder of the popular industry news blog, Hard Bytes, that she writes anonymously.

She lives in the Manhattan neighborhood of Chelsea that she shares with her best friend, Rivermoon Nichols. She was born and raised in Connecticut and graduated from The New School.

Ashton Montgomery, 36, Black, Pharmaceutical Sales Representative that sells a cutting edge drug that treats bipolar disorder. She travels non-stop for work. Mother to Yasmeen.

She recently relocated to Chicago for her job.
Ashton was born in Kenya to diplomat parents and graduated from Georgetown.

With smoking hot good looks, equally impressive careers, and enough ambition to climb any ladder they please, this trio must soon decide on how to navigate a world that leaves very little room for love or lust.

Do they continue to straddle the lines of living in both worlds, or do they choose love and lust over power? Who's keeping secrets and who is more vulnerable than they ever need to be?
This quick and dirty erotic novella will leave you wanting more and more page after page.
Guaranteed to hit your g-spot as much as pique your own desire to shatter the glass ceiling.

To be one of the first to catch a glimpse of the layered lives of Kenneth, Andrea and Ashton, sign-up for my #SELFPLEASURE Chronicles series. A steamy sex scene (a mix of either PRETTY HARD DECISIONS sneak peeks or fantasies that are all about solo sex) coupled with a "BIG-O" tip for mind-blowing self pleasure hits inboxes every Friday.

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Until then...

XOXO,
CJ Childress 

The Dirty Dirty: Things We Keep A Secret

Do you have a fantasy you hold inside of you?
Afraid to say it out loud to yourself.
At times even blushing with embarrassment when just the thought enters your mind.

Of course you do.

We all do.

While you may think that I am about to divulge my secret itch for a rose quartz crystal dildo (yeah, I am into that spiritual love making good-good kind of sex) or reveal the age that I was when I accepted that I was a queer woman.

Nope.

My DIRTY DIRTY SECRET is tied to my professional ambition, interests and desires.

Here's the short of it:

I dreamt of becoming one of two things as a college freshman:
a screenwriter and film producer that lived in Hollywood or a photojournalist for a major media powerhouse like National Geographic with NYC being my home base.

Neither of those happened after college and it's a very long story as to why.

I stopped writing the rest of my twenties and barely even admitted to myself how much photography fascinated me.

Fast forward to my early thirties.
After experiencing my second emotionally tough lay-off as a school teacher, I began writing again.

However, this time, it wasn't anything too fun really. Just some poems, short plays, short films, and even shorter short stories. I became a woman who got paid to write advertisements which left little headspace for writing novels, TV pilots, and feature full-length films.

The fiction I did write, was safe. Wouldn't raise any eyebrows. Because lets face it, everyone can handle coming of age stories about little black girls growing up in the south. And when I wanted to really feel all genre-y I would write about teenagers that see ghosts.

Yet, deep down, I wanted to also try my hand at writing about sex.

Sex in all kinds of ways. From creative non-fiction to journalism to hard-core erotica.

Popular rhetoric is to, write what you know. And I know sex.
Granted, this isn't because I'm a sex champ or anything, its because it has always fascinated me.

Often times our passion and purpose is so closely tied to the corners of our lives and imagination that intrigues us. We spin our heads trying to discover our "life's work" when if we stood still, it would be right there. In our face.

However, there was some shame for me in this area.

I don't know when or why I declared myself a writer of young adult literature but at some point I did.

Insert: mouth in foot.

As much as I live for Cruel Intentions/Gossip Girl, its not a world I want to create as a storyteller when I am being honest.

I did however, want to be taken seriously as a writer. I didn't want to explain to anyone my motivation and justification for wanting to write about sex and erotic fiction.

I felt that it was going to come with too many questions. That my writer friends and non-writer friends would judge me. It was already a fight to be a writer, I figured why add, sexcapades to my niche list.

What's deeper is that as I've gotten older, I've really grown comfortable with my sexuality, sexual desires, sex-positive feminism and real life sexual experiences. My imagination is on tennnnn.

I just don't give a fuck anymore.

I've had enough relationships-situationships-experiences where the sex was bland or we were incompatible.

Now that forty is around the corner, I have no interest in holding back.

I say, "let's get it on" now with more frequency than ever before in my life.

And I think Lovely souls, this is why I am finally no longer keeping my writing spirit and penchant for kink a secret.

I am boldly and unapologetically writing sex scenes every week for free (you can get them HERE), and crafting stories about sexually liberated women who collect lovers along the way.

They stand firm in their sex positive reality. They are who they are. The women they WANT to be.

I suppose I am writing a piece of me in my characters. It may be cheating, but it feels ohhhh so good.

I knew once 2018 rolled around, I couldn't keep this secret any longer.

I've been waiting too long and playing it too safe to make my splash as a fiction writer and overall storyteller. It became high time that I got real honest about what fascinates me most and using those interests to springboard a writing career that I can be proud of and that feels in alignment with who I am.

These are the stories I want to tell.

I am aiming for a career like Roxane Gay. There's almost nothing she can't write, but almost no one can write about the interior lives of women as well as she can.

The cat's out the bag...

It's going to be one helluva ride.

A Poem For Women Who Want To Like Sex

You love it 

You don't like it

You do it with strangers

You feel like a stranger

You think its strange

You have orgasms

You fake them 

You do solo sex

You don't trust people sex

You don't trust solo sex

You only do people sex 

You look at the ceiling

You want to keep going 

You hate moving 

You love switching 

You light candles 

You keep your clothes on

You fight with them 

You fight with self 

You say its your period 

You wait till summer 

You count to twenty 

You shower three times 

You do the sucking 

You don't forgive 

You forgive too much 

You feel unsexed-too-sexed. 

You need to hold on

You need readiness 

You need innocent desire

You need to breathe

You need to heart beat 

You need it with them 

You need your body 

You need their body

You need self trust 

You need to earn trust 

You need spiritual connection 

You need vulnerable flesh 

You need to be wet 

You need a yoni opened 

You need nipples seen 

You need dug deep kisses 

You need to fuck

You need love made 

You need them equally 

You need them concurrently 

You need to be the sex

You need to be the flower 

You need to be the ocean 

You need to be the earth 

You need everything to like sex. 

CJ Childress © February 2018 

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